Reconnecting Body and Mind: The Transformative Power of Focusing and Felt Sensing
by Dr. Denise Renye
A close-up image of a water drop creating ripples on a calm surface, symbolizing the ripple effect of reconnecting body and mind through focusing and felt sensing.
In an age characterized by the relentless march of artificial intelligence and digital technologies, there is a growing disconnection between our bodies and minds. We are encouraged more than ever to divorce from our physical selves, as the allure of the virtual world takes precedence. However, in this era, where we are increasingly distanced from our own bodies and selves, Eugene Gendlin's work offers a vital opportunity to bridge this gap. Focusing and felt sensing not only serve as tools to unite our bodies and minds but also have the potential to transform communication, particularly for marginalized and oppressed groups.
In a world filled with constant external influences and expectations, individuals often find themselves saying things automatically, parroting what they have heard growing up, or echoing what they believe to be "acceptable" messages. This disconnect between what is spoken and what one truly thinks and believes can lead to a fragmented sense of self. Focusing and felt sensing provide a pathway to connect with one's authentic self by bypassing the rational mind and tapping into the wisdom of the body. These practices allow individuals to delve deep into their inner selves, to explore their true thoughts, feelings, and desires.
The concept of being embodied is central to the practice of focusing and felt sensing. It entails being fully present within one's body, attuned to its sensations, emotions, and inner guidance. When individuals engage in both focusing and felt sensing, they enter a space where their body and mind align harmoniously. From this centered and empowered place, they are better equipped to convey information to others with authenticity and clarity.
This process is particularly relevant for marginalized and oppressed groups who often find themselves disconnected from their bodies due to systemic injustices, discrimination, and trauma. These individuals may not feel safe within their own bodies, as their lived experiences have taught them that vulnerability can lead to harm. Focusing and felt sensing offer a pathway for these communities to reclaim their bodily autonomy and speak from a place of power and truth.
Marginalized and oppressed communities often bear the brunt of systemic injustices, discrimination, and trauma, which can result in a profound disconnection between their bodies and minds. This disconnection arises from a complex interplay of historical, cultural, and personal factors, making it especially relevant to explore how focusing and felt sensing can help these communities reconnect with their bodies and heal.
Systemic injustices, such as racial discrimination, economic disparities, and gender-based violence, create an environment where individuals from marginalized groups face constant threats to their physical and emotional well-being. In such a hostile world, many individuals develop coping mechanisms that involve dissociation or detachment from their bodies. This disconnection serves as a survival strategy, a way to distance themselves from the pain and fear associated with their lived experiences. Consequently, they may find it challenging to feel safe within their own bodies.
Moreover, discrimination and oppression often manifest as attacks on an individual's identity and self-worth. Constant microaggressions and overt acts of prejudice can erode one's sense of self, leading to feelings of shame, self-doubt, and inadequacy. In such circumstances, individuals may develop a guarded exterior, concealing their authentic thoughts and emotions to protect themselves from further harm. This, too, deepens the divide between their bodies and minds.
Trauma, another common experience among marginalized groups, can further intensify this disconnection. Traumatic events can fragment one's sense of self and leave deep emotional scars. Survivors of trauma may carry the weight of their experiences within their bodies, often experiencing physical symptoms, such as tension, pain, or numbness, as a result of unresolved trauma.
Focusing and felt sensing offer a promising pathway for marginalized and oppressed communities to address these challenges and reclaim their bodily autonomy. These practices encourage individuals to turn inward and listen to their bodies without judgment or fear. By paying attention to their bodily sensations, emotions, and intuitive responses, individuals can gradually rebuild a sense of trust in their bodies.
Through focusing and felt sensing, individuals learn to honor their vulnerability as a source of strength, rather than a weakness. They begin to recognize that their bodies hold valuable insights and wisdom, which can guide them in navigating the complexities of their lived experiences. This newfound connection with their bodies enables them to speak from a place of authenticity and power, unburdened by the layers of societal conditioning and self-doubt that often obscure their true voices.
Additionally, as members of marginalized and oppressed communities reconnect with their bodies, they can more effectively address the trauma and emotional scars they carry. Focusing and felt sensing provide tools for processing and healing these wounds, allowing individuals to release stored emotions and move toward a more integrated and resilient sense of self.
In a broader context, when individuals from marginalized and oppressed groups speak from a place of power and truth, their voices carry a unique and vital perspective. Their stories become a catalyst for change, challenging the status quo and pushing society toward greater equity and justice. The healing and empowerment that result from this process create a ripple effect, inspiring others within their communities to embark on their own journeys of self-discovery and self-expression.
Focusing and felt sensing are invaluable tools for marginalized and oppressed communities seeking to bridge the gap between their bodies and minds. These practices offer a means to reclaim bodily autonomy, heal from trauma, and speak authentically in a world where vulnerability has often been met with harm. By nurturing this connection with their bodies, individuals can not only find strength and healing within themselves but also contribute to the broader struggle for social change and justice.
By accessing their body's needs and wants, individuals can communicate their needs without the interference of societal conditioning. They can untangle the web of cultural expectations, biases, and external pressures that often obscure their authentic voices. In doing so, they not only empower themselves but also contribute to the broader process of healing and transformation within their communities.
The impact of this reconnection between body and mind extends beyond individual healing. It ripples out to those around them, creating a more profound and collective sense of well-being. When marginalized individuals find the strength to communicate their truths unapologetically, they inspire others to do the same. This ripple effect fosters a culture of open and authentic dialogue, which is essential for societal progress and change.
In a world where we are increasingly encouraged to divorce our bodies and minds, Eugene Gendlin's work on focusing and felt sensing offers a powerful antidote. These practices not only facilitate the reconnection of body and mind but also serve as transformative tools for communication. For folx who have been oppressed, these practices are particularly valuable, as they provide a means to speak from a place of authenticity and empowerment. By embracing these techniques, individuals can unlock their true selves, paving the way for healing, personal growth, and societal change.
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Resources:
1-"Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies" is a book written by Resmaa Menakem. In this book, Menakem explores the impact of racial trauma on individuals and communities and provides insights and strategies for healing and addressing racialized trauma. The book delves into the intersections of trauma, race, and the body, offering a unique perspective on how historical and intergenerational trauma can be addressed for the betterment of society.
2-Focusing is a mindfulness practice developed by Eugene Gendlin that involves tuning into your bodily sensations and inner feelings to gain insight and clarity. Here's a short exercise you can try:
Step 1: Find a Quiet Space
Begin by finding a quiet and comfortable space where you won't be disturbed. Sit in a chair or on the floor, whichever is more comfortable for you.
Step 2: Get Grounded
Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths to center yourself. Pay attention to the sensation of your breath entering and leaving your body. Feel the support of the chair or floor beneath you, grounding you in the present moment.
Step 3: Scan Your Body
Now, start to scan your body from head to toe. Pay attention to any areas of tension or discomfort. Don't try to change anything; simply notice and acknowledge these sensations.
Step 4: Choose One Area
Select one area in your body where you're feeling a sensation or discomfort. It could be a tightness in your chest, a knot in your stomach, or any other sensation you're aware of.
Step 5: Befriend the Sensation
Direct your attention to that chosen area. Imagine you are gently turning your inner flashlight toward it. Approach the sensation with curiosity, as if you were meeting a new friend. Be open to whatever arises without judgment.
Step 6: Ask Open-Ended Questions
Begin to ask yourself open-ended questions about the sensation. For example:
"What is this sensation trying to tell me?"
"What does it feel like?"
"Is there a color, shape, or texture associated with it?"
Allow the answers to emerge from your inner experience without trying to force or analyze them.
Step 7: Wait and Listen
After asking a question, wait and listen for a response from your inner self. Trust your intuition and the subtle shifts in your bodily sensations. The answers might not be immediate, so be patient and receptive.
Step 8: Validate and Express
As insights or shifts occur, validate them. If you feel a release of tension, a change in the sensation, or a deeper understanding of what's going on within you, acknowledge it. You can also express your feelings or insights quietly to yourself.
Step 9: Conclude Mindfully
When you're ready to conclude the focusing exercise, take a few more deep breaths and gradually bring your awareness back to your surroundings. Open your eyes and sit quietly for a moment, integrating what you've learned.
Focusing is a practice that can be developed over time. You can return to this exercise whenever you want to explore your inner feelings, gain clarity, or simply become more attuned to your body's wisdom. It can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and emotional well-being.