Posts tagged sexual healing
How EMDR Can Promote Sexual Healing
How EMDR Can Promote Sexual Healing

Sexuality and relationship issues often stem from past experiences that have left emotional scars or negative beliefs about one’s self and others. EMDR facilitates the reprocessing of these memories, helping individuals to integrate positive and adaptive information, and desensitize the emotional charge associated with past traumas. In the realm of sexuality, EMDR can assist individuals in overcoming inhibitions, shame, or negative self-perceptions that may hinder their healthy sexual expression.

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EMDR, Trauma Healing, SexualityDenise RenyeEMDR, PTSD, sexuality, sexual healing, relationship therapy, couples therapy, couples, trauma healing, trauma, EMDR therapist Marin county, EMDR therapist
Delving into Demisexuality
Delving into Demisexuality

For demisexual individuals, navigating the complexities of dating and relationships can be both rewarding and challenging. The emphasis on emotional connection often means that they invest significant time and energy into getting to know someone on a deep level before any sort of sexual attraction can manifest. This can lead to more profound and meaningful relationships as the foundation is built upon a strong emotional bond. However, it might also result in feelings of disconnect or isolation in a society that frequently prioritizes instant physical or sexual connections.

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Denise Renyedemisexual, sexual orientation, physical intimacy, sexuality, sexual integrity, sexual healing, sexual anxiety, sexual rights, marin county sexologist, marin county psychologist, marin county CA, marin county, marin county sex therapist
Birthing: A Multifaceted Experience
Birthing: A Multifaceted Experience

An orgasm is possible during childbirth because the baby is moving through the same parts of the body involved in sexual pleasure. As we know, the clitoris is more than the small nub most people think it is, meaning as the baby passes through the vagina it may stimulate the clitoris along the way. An orgasmic birth is also a possibility because of hormones: Oxytocin, the feel-good, bonding hormone, is released during childbirth, lactation, and orgasm.

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Denise RenyeSex, sexual healing, sexual integrity, orga, fema, pleasure, birth, birthing, root chakra, marin county sexologist, marin county psychologist, marin county sex therapist
Celebrating Big Vulva Energy
Celebrating Big Vulva Energy

Have you ever noticed all the phallic symbols in the world, the monuments, the figurines, the everything that pay homage to the penis, and wondered where the corresponding vulva tributes were? I know you have. And if you haven’t, perhaps you now will. Like most things pertaining to the divine feminine, they were hidden away. And while that can feel unfair and just plain wrong, it also makes a sort of senf because  the physicality of the vulva and vagina themselves are hidden inside of tissue folds. The vulva has been a mystery, a sacred mystery, since this is where life is birthed through. But the ancient “Sheela Na Gig” brings this mystery out in a very bold way.

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Denise Renyevulva, sheela na gig, divine feminine, sacred feminine, churches, catholic church, demons, dark goddess, kali, women's sexuality, sexuality, sexual healing, sex therapy, mysticism, mystical experience, marin county sex therapist, marin county sexologist, marin county psychologist
An Orgasm is Perhaps Not What You Think It Is
An Orgasm is Perhaps Not What You Think It Is

Sexuality consists of five circles, which means it’s not limited to one body part in another body part. Sexuality is also flirting, touch, fantasy, sexual identity, and health, and, perhaps above all, a psychological state of being. So no, it’s not just about body parts. And even then, don’t discount the various ways sex can be performed be it oral, mutual masturbation, and digital, to name just a few ways of expression!

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Body Movement, Sexuality, Sex Therapy, Somatic PsychologyDenise Renyesexuality and disability, disability, disabled bodies, Sex, sex therapy, sexual healing, marin county sexologist, marin county psychologist, marin county CA, marin county sex therapist, EMDR therapist Marin county
Cancer and Sexuality
Cancer and Sexuality

It is important to study women's sexual health because women have unique pleasure and health needs that differ from those of men. These issues are multifaceted and include sexual pleasure, menstrual understanding, sexual expression and communication, pregnancy-related curiosities and concerns, and menopausal transitions. Women's sexual health is not only essential for their physical well-being but also for their mental and emotional health because they are connected.

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Denise Renyewomen's health, women's sexuality, women's rights, women and psychology, cancer, cancer recovery, sexuality and cancer, sexual pleasure, Sex, sexual healing, sexuality mapping, human sexuality, badass women, marin county sexologist, marin county psychologist, marin county CA, marin county sex therapist
Want more Sexual Pleasure?
Want more Sexual Pleasure?

Emotional safety plays a crucial role in sexual pleasure. When we feel emotionally safe with our partner, we are more likely to be open, vulnerable, and willing to explore our desires and fantasies. When we trust our partner, we can let go of any inhibitions and fully immerse ourselves in the moment, leading to a more intense and fulfilling sexual experience.

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Gender Openness, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, SexologyDenise Renyepleasure, sexual healing, sexual pleasure, emotional safety, relationship creativity, relationship, marin county sexologist, marin county psychologist, marin county CA, marin county
Sexual Anxiety? Try Meditation
Sexual Anxiety? Try Meditation

Sexual anxiety is a common issue that affects many people, and it can be caused by a variety of factors, including performance anxiety, past trauma, or negative self-talk. Anxiety can significantly impact one's sexual experience, leading to difficulties achieving or maintaining an erection, premature ejaculation, or difficulty reaching orgasm. However, meditation is a powerful tool that can help decrease anxiety during sex and improve overall sexual well-being.

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Body Movement, Ritual and Ceremony, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Somatic Psychology, Yoga Therapy, SexologyDenise Renyesexual anxiety, sexual healing, sexua trauma, sexual pleasure, sexual assault survivor, sexual therapy, meditation, mind-body connection, mindfulness
The Clitoris: Much More Than the Tip of the Iceberg
The Clitoris: Much More Than the Tip of the Iceberg

This lack of focus and knowledge can create a lot of issues for those with clitorises.  Psychologically, there is a message put forth that there’s less importance on these bodies, that women overall are less important, and that can affect self-esteem, confidence, and a general sense of embodiment. This is changing but/and the change is so very slow. It’s important to talk about the issues for people with clitorises, understand it, and have deeper knowledge of the vulva, vagina, and clitoris. Normalizing pleasure is key to a sense of embodiment.

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Sexuality, SexologyDenise RenyeSex, sextherapy, sex therapy, sexual therapy, sexua trauma, clitoris, sexual healing, sexual pleasure, women's sexuality, freud, marin county sex therapist, marin county sexologist, marin county psychologist
Female Orgasms and Unrealistic Expectations
Female Orgasms and Unrealistic Expectations

For folx who have sex with people with clitorises, it’s important that they realize vaginal penetration alone may not cut it, and as with all satisfying sex, communication is key. At Whole Person Integration, we say bring consciousness back to the bedroom. Communicate wants and desires. But also explore…and explore widely, vastly, and wildly…if you so desire. You may have “tried and true” methods of coming but part of the fun with sex is learning new forms of pleasure. What else can you try? The answer may surprise you.

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Sexuality, SexologyDenise Renyeorgasm, female orgasm, sexual pleasure, sex, sexuality, sexual healing, sexual, sextherapy, sex therapy, clitoris, marin county sexologist, marin county psychologist, marin county, marin county CA, marin county sex therapist
Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy: What it Is and How it Can Help You
Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy: What it Is and How it Can Help You

Mostly what I care about is folx keeping in mind two things: sex isn’t supposed to hurt, and if it does, there may be a physical reason as to why. There’s no shame in asking for help and doing so could make all the difference. It’s important in my line of work to have colleagues to refer to who are sex-positive.

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Denise Renyepelvic floor, sexologist, san francisco, sex therapy, vaginismus, vagina, vulva, sexual trauma, sexual healing
How Reconnecting to the Body Helps Erectile Dysfunction
How Reconnecting to the Body Helps Erectile Dysfunction

By doing so, these folx with penises learn more about themselves. They are able to decipher their body's cues and act upon them. They understand their bodies are not machines that obey every command. Instead, the body is a living, breathing organism with its own rhythms and wants. Reconnecting the mind and body creates attunement and harmony, which is more satisfying for everyone involved.

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Denise Renyeerectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, penis, sex, sexual healing, sexual trauma, marin county sexologist, marin county psychologist, marin county CA, marin county
Narcissism: The Shadow of Organized Religion
Narcissism: The Shadow of Organized Religion

We’re seeing the shadow side of the Catholic church, the side they want to hide but must be dealt with. Carl Jung popularized shadow work in the West and emphasized that we all have different parts of ourselves that have been exiled, that we try to repress or keep hidden. One of Jung’s most famous quotes is, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

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Denise Renyesexual trauma, sexual healing, catholic church, abuse, abuse survivor, narcissistic abuse
Sex (Skills) for Money
Sex (Skills) for Money

Surrogate partner therapy includes the use of services of a surrogate partner (who works in close consultation with the referred client/patient and the psychologist or psychotherapist who said client/patient is in treatment with) to help the client gain a deeper understanding of themselves and any challenges they are having in their sexual life, which also includes issues related to partnership, relationship, dating, and communication of desires, wants, and needs. Sexual issues are not limited to sex and instead fall into at least five circles of sexuality.

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Denise Renyepartner surrogacy, sexual surrogate, surrogate, sexologist, sexual healing, relationship surrogacy, marin county sexologist, marin county, marin county psychologist, marin county CA